Sexuality is a still interesting problem to be discussed , because it always develops as human civilization. It is not only instingtive, but also a psychological and cultural needs. As a culture in society , sexuality experience attitude and meaning changes that different from one society or community to another one. In reality there are many sexual deviances in pondok pesantren. This study is a qualitative research using a phenomenological perspective. Digging data is done observasinely, deep interview is done to some informen and santri, and data analysis is done interpretatively.